Mothers Day means many things to different people.
If Mothers Day is a hard day for you, you are not alone.
Treat yourself with kindness. Don’t wait for other people to give you what you need. Give it to yourself.
A few of us are like the mothers on the ads who’ll get breakfast in bed, flowers, a desired gift and be showered with love and appreciation. Some of us will feel satisfied, and some will be left wanting.
We all HAVE a mother.
You may have a great relationship, you may not. She may be living, she may have passed. She may be close, or she might be far away. Mothers Day may be a time when you can express your gratitude for what your mother has done for you, or it may be a time of regret, resentment or a reminder of loss.
Some of us ARE mothers.
Some of us wish that we were able to have children, but are not.
Some of us hope for children in the future.
Some of us are with our children today. Some of us are not.
Some of us wish we weren’t mothers.
Some of us are with our children’s father.
Some of us are parenting alone.
Some of us will spend the day in the car visiting mothers and mother’s in law, purchasing bunches of flowers at drive-through florists.
Some of us will spend the day alone.
Some of us will spend the day surrounded.
Mothers Day is a sad one for me in 2015. One of my last memories of my Dad when he was not in hospital was on Mothers Day 2013. My Mum and I did the Mothers Day Classic and he came to watch us finish (it was a regional one, in Warrnambool). He was very ill at the time, however he was still such a massive supporter of my (and my Mum’s) endeavours. We went out for brunch afterwards with my Mum, my sister and her family and us. It was a happy time and I remember Dad chuckling at the conversation between my daughter and her cousin. He adored his grandchildren.
I will spend the day with my partner and two children. I sadly will not be seeing my own Mum and I will be feeling for her too.
I will be allowing myself to feel fragile and cry if I need to. I will drink lots of tea and cuddle my munchkins.
I am hoping for a cup of tea and toast in bed (in fact I put in an order last night before I went to bed so it happens), a present from the school stall that Miss 6 bought and a tonne of cuddles from Mr 4.
My intentions for this Mothers Day –
- I will not attach myself to unrealistic expectations about how Mothers Day should look.
- I will practice gratitude for what I have.
- I will take responsibility for my day and gifts.
- I will take responsibility for my emotions.
Whatever your day, whether you are a mum or not, take some time, whether it be a minute, an hour or the whole day, to be kind to yourself and take care of you.
With best wishes,